No one is going to save you. You need to save yourself
When we are kids, we depend on our parents, teacher and other adults for support, nurture and acceptance. A lot of the times, that support is not available, and as adults, we walk around with a wounded inner child.
The wounded inner child is a concept I came across in recent times, once I committed to walking emotional and sexual healing path. Most of us have been rejected, abused (physically, emotionally, psychologically, sexually) by people who were close to us or that were supposed to love us.
Over time we build a wall around our feelings and emotions and do not allow our true selves to shine, because of past wounding. We become insecure adults, and always looking for someone else to save us.
I know this because this was my story for a long time. I was always the victim. Ohhh poor me… Look at me… This is what happened to me when I was X years old. Pity me, love me, save me….
Then I encounter the somatic/embodiment path. With time I learned why I was the way I was, and why I behaved the way I behaved. Then I was introduced to the inner child. I didnt know she existed, but Oh boy, she was upset… She felt so abandoned, so hurt. She she just wanted to be accepted, and to be loved. She looked for this acceptance and love in the wrong places…
The first time I met my inner child, she was 12 years old. The practitioner I was worked with asked me to go and have a chat with her. I call her my “little me”. It was very interesting to have a chat with a younger version of myself. I understood why I was behaving the way I behaved, and it came from early childhood wounding. A very specific scenario played in my head, something that I had suppressed for so long, because the memory was so painful, but it needed to come to light, so I could move forward and stop repeating the same mistakes.
A year later, after that experience, I learned to soothe my inner child. I now have the ability to face the world on my own. Whenever I get upset, I stop and check in with myself. “Why am I feeling this way? Is this current stuff or is this my inner child getting triggered? If the answer is yes, then I as myself “ Why is she upset? What memories does this situation bring up?” By having this mindset, and checking in with myself every time I get out of alignment allows me to heal and soothe my inner child… because she is always there… and she want my attention from time to time!
I have noticed this pattern with my clients also. They are so protective of their inner child and they refuse to work with them, because it takes steeping up from the victim mentality to taking charge of their life.
A lot of the clients I work with are middle aged men and older, and the story is always the same. They are in the wrong relationship, the wrong job, hiding from their feelings, and not living life according to their desires, because it takes COURAGE and work to let go of what is safe and secure.
Did you know that when you give yourself permission to surrender and heal, you will find out more about yourself, about what makes you tick, and what serves you. The toxic people and situations in your life will take a step back. Over time you will live a more fulfilling andmagical life, that aligns with who you really are in the soul level.
Stop waiting for your partner, friend, parent, child, mentor, coach or whoever else you are working with, to save you. NO ONE IS GOING TO SAVE YOU. Only you have the power to save yourself.