You deserve to feel at home in your body, pleasure, intimacy, and relationships
Trauma-informed holistic services for ADHD, queer, and deep-feeling humans
Hi, I’m Bia Bliss
And I’m so glad you are here!
My mission is to create safer spaces for ADHDers, queer and deeply-feeling humans to explore authentic intimacy, vulnerability and sexual freedom through trauma-informed practices that encompass mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual alignment.
Whether it’s through 1:1 coaching, live events, self-paced online courses, group programs, or weekend immersions, my commitment is to meet you right where you are.
I’m a neurodivergent (ADHD), heart-centred, being who trained as a somatic sexologist, Embodied Counsellor and Aletheia Coach. Oh, and in one chapter of my life, I was an escort, which provided me with profound insights into the intricacies of human connection that no classroom will ever be able to teach!
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What If You Could Go From…
✔️ Self-doubt to confidence in sex, intimacy, and relationships?
✔️ Overthinking intimacy to feeling fully present and at ease?
✔️ Guilt and shame to embracing pleasure without hesitation?
✔️ Suppressing desires to clearly expressing and owning them?
✔️ Fearing rejection to feeling safe, seen, and valued?
✔️ Avoiding intimacy to deeply enjoying connection?
✔️ Dopamine chasing and restless seeking to feeling grounded in intimacy and pleasure?
✔️ Rejection sensitivity and fear of abandonment to deep, lasting connection?
✔️ Performance anxiety to relaxed, embodied pleasure?
✔️ Feeling unseen and misunderstood to being valued, supported, and celebrated (whether neurodivergent, queer, or deeply-feeling human)?
✔️ People-pleasing and weak boundaries to confidently owning your needs and desires.
You’re not broken, and your desires aren’t wrong. But if you’ve ever felt like you’re not fully experiencing the connection, pleasure, or ease you long for, it’s not your fault. We live in a world that doesn’t hand you a manual on how to navigate these areas of life…
This is where my services come in. This work isn’t about fixing you… it’s about uncovering who you’ve been all along, underneath the conditioning, shame, and self-doubt (hint: worthy, lovable and enough exactly as you are!). In our sessions, we’ll heal old stories, reconnect you to your body’s wisdom, and help you step into intimacy and pleasure in a way that finally feels right for you!
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Explore the possibilities…
- Releasing Shame & Guilt: Overcome societal conditioning and embrace pleasure, sex, and holistic intimacy as your birthright!
- Body Acceptance & Self-Love: Celebrate what yo’ mamma gave ya, and feel confident in your own skin.
- Mindful Intimacy & Tantra: Explore and enhance spiritual connections with yourself and/or a partner.
- Mid-Life Intimacy Transitions Guidance: Adapt to the inevitable changes that come with the years in an empowered way!
- Addressing Performance Anxiety: Ease your worries and enhance your confidence during intimate moments, creating a relaxed and enjoyable experience.
- Lasting Longer: Learn techniques to extend pleasure and intimacy, ensuring both you and your partner’s satisfaction.
- Sexual Exploration & Self-Discovery: Understand your intimate desires and boundaries, shame and guilt free!
- Holistic Sex Education: The sex education you wish you had received in school!
- Boosting Confidence in Intimacy: Empowering you to be assertive in intimate scenarios and getting your needs met!
- Mindful Masturbation: Broaden your masturbation techniques repertoire.
- Communication Skills: Stop getting lost in translation and uplevel your communication game!
- Ethical Non-Monogamy Guidance: Explore non-traditional relationship structures. Have your cake and eat it too!
My work is trauma-informed, helping you heal and move forward while acknowledging past experiences through compassionate, understanding care.
My deepest desire is for you to overcome any sexual challenges or blockages that you may have, and experience next-level intimacy, love, and pleasure, in and out of the bedroom!
Who This is For
✔️ You feel disconnected from pleasure, sex, or relationships, or struggle to stay present in intimacy.
✔️ You find yourself overthinking, avoiding, or struggling to express what you truly want.
✔️ You’re navigating changes in libido, relationships, or self-expression and want guidance that works for your unique mind and body.
✔️ You may be neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, or highly sensitive), queer, or struggling with sexual confidence, intimacy challenges, or relationship difficulties.
✔️ You want to feel confident in your pleasure, intimacy and relationships without fear, shame, or guilt.
This is NOT for you if…
✘ You’re looking for a quick fix or surface-level techniques.
✘ You’re uncomfortable with deep, open conversations about sex, pleasure, and connection.
✘ You expect traditional talk therapy—this work is experiential and embodied.
Like a weed in a garden, struggling with intimacy, pleasure, or confidence is just a symptom. Real transformation happens when we address the shame, fear, and conditioning at the root, so you can finally thrive!
Ways We Can Work Together
1:1 Sessions
Custom-tailored to your unique challenges, goals and desires.
Events
Interactive, immersive experiences to help you expand and reconnect, in person or online.
Online Courses
Explore topics of interest either in a cohort or at your own pace.
Success Stories
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I know this might feel out of reach right now. But you’re not alone and you’re not the first to feel this way. Here’s what’s possible when you step into this work…
Most practitioners out there are trying to convince you why you should work with them. I rather let my clients do the talking, as after working with me, they feel confident to show up on camera and share their journey publicly, hoping that their story might inspire others to take action and change their lives too.
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I don’t just talk the talk. I embody what I teach. I cherish the most amazing relationship with my life partner, Chris. I firmly believe that such a profound connection isn’t just possible for me. It’s attainable for anyone who takes the time to learn about the transformative power of the body/mind/heart connection, regardless of past experiences, including you!
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FAQs
Q. What is holistic intimacy?
Holistic intimacy is a comprehensive approach to building closeness and connection in all aspects of a relationship with self and another. It goes beyond just physical or sexual intimacy to include emotional, mental, and sometimes spiritual connections. This approach emphasizes understanding and nurturing the whole person and the entire relationship, considering factors like communication, trust, mutual respect, and shared experiences. The goal is to create a deeply satisfying and balanced relationship that supports the well-being of all parties involved, in and out of the bedroom.
Q. How do sessions work?
Sessions conveniently take place online via Zoom, allowing for flexibility and the comfort of your own home, regardless of where you are located in the world.
Each session is tailored to your unique needs and challenges, ensuring a personalized experience.
- We will begin with a comprehensive assessment of your desires, and goals. From there, we will work together to create a customized plan that will support you to achieve the outcomes you want.
- We work together to identify which tools work best for you and develop a sustainable and integrated practice, so you can thrive.
- By actively engaging in your own pleasure and intimacy, you’ll experience increased connection, improved health and wellbeing, and a greater sense of joy and fulfilment in your life as you show up authentically and unapologetically, in and out of the bedroom!
Q. What happens in a session?
In a session, you’ll find a welcoming and judgment-free space. We start by discussing what you’d like to takeaway from out time together – from relationship challenges to personal intimacy goals. Then we’ll explore practical tools and exercises designed to help you achieve your goals.
Q. How many sessions do I need?
In New Zealand we say: “How long is a piece of string?”. The truth is, everyone’s journey varies, making the number of sessions needed unique to each person, as we all have different backgrounds and life experiences.
In my experience as a client and as a practitioner, to truly cultivate and sustain long-term results, a period of 3, 6 or 12 months is recommended. This allows for in-depth exploration, transformation, and the solidification of new practices and ways of being.
However, if you’re seeking guidance on a specific, pressing issue, a single session might offer the clarity and direction you need. Ultimately, the number of sessions depends on your individual goals, challenges, and desired outcomes and I’m here to support you in whichever capacity serves you best. For this reason, I invite you to schedule a clarity call, where we can have a chat and find out how my services can best support you.
Q. I’m not in a relationship. How can you help me?
Even if you’re not currently in a relationship, receiving sessions with me can empower you overcome personal barriers to sex, pleasure, intimacy and relationships. Many clients find that by cultivating a stronger bond with their inner self first, they build a foundation that attracts healthier and more fulfilling relationships in the future. Remember that the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship in your life. You can read about my personal experience with this work here.
Q. What can I expect?
When embarking on a journey of holistic intimacy, you can expect an exploration of your emotional landscape, a process of self-discovery, and a deepening of relationships, in and out of the bedroom.
Expect to learn about your needs, boundaries and desires.
How to communicate your desires.
Overcome the barriers that have been preventing deeper connections and learn tools to overcome these obstacles.
You can anticipate growth, fulfilment, and a richer, more profound understanding of yourself and your relationships. The journey may challenge you, prompting you to confront fears or insecurities. However, you will be guided and supported every step of the way. I encourage you to review the case studies, as many people just like you and me have taken the leap and what is on the other side is nothing short of extraordinary!
Let’s Get You There
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Take the first step toward sexual confidence, intimacy healing, and deeper relationships. Whether you’re neurodivergent, queer, or simply seeking a more fulfilling connection, get in touch and find out what might the best pathway for you.